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Some of those silly little memes that get passed between blogs, and my participation therein.

Not So Naughty, I’m Afraid

Vint Falken has tagged me for a little blog game in which one is supposed to name the avatars one would like to have SL sex with, for various reasons. Well, Vint, I don’t think I can give you what you’re asking for…but I can give you something better. It’s called “the truth.” 🙂

The truth is, I’m not really the SL-sex kind of person. The only person I’ve actually done that with is Danielle, and that was in the context of our SL relationship (courting, and later, marriage). Heck, while I have an Xcite! setup somewhere in my inventory (in a folder marked “(warning!)”), it hasn’t seen any use in ages…and the cock in it is still the original cock. Not even an X2, much less an X3. I just haven’t seen the need to spend money on upgrades for something I don’t use.

People would probably find it hard to imagine this, seeing as how I’ve been DJing quite frequently at Club Desire (now Elite Desire), where on any given night I can look down from the booth and see any number of ladies, generally looking their best and acting quite flirtatious with the dancers. I’m sure that, were I so inclined, I could talk many of them into an interlude…but that’s just not me. I don’t sleep around, in RL or in SL. And the ladies that I tend to spend the most time with are my own “daughters” (such as Samaria and Lillindrial); the idea of Doing It with them falls rather firmly in the realm of “eww eww eww.” 🙂

I could “tag” Danielle to respond to this herself, but I already know what she’d say, and that’s much the same thing that I’m saying here. Neither of us is inclined to sleep around in SL, just as we aren’t inclined to do so in RL. Which is not to say that we’re going to condemn other people for doing so; if we were, we wouldn’t be in the business we’re in. But we have our own consciences to look after, which is all that we can take responsibility for. I suppose, when it comes down to it, it just serves to demonstrate how much our SL avatars are reflections of our RL selves.

(Don’t worry, Vint, you didn’t offend me by tagging me. I just thought you deserved a good and truthful answer, rather than being ignored.)

“All love is unrequited, Stephen. All of it.” – Commander Susan Ivanova (to Dr. Stephen Franklin), Babylon 5 episode “Rising Star” (season 4)



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Not-A-Meme #18: Manners

Rose Farina has posted the latest N-A-M challenge over on her site, asking the question:

How important to you are good manners in Second Life? I don’t mean the hold your pinkie up type of manners either.

When you tell someone you will do something or be somewhere for something do you show up? Are you generally polite to other players you don’t know? (Heaven knows I pick on the ones I do know hehe). Do you feel free to blast others because of the anonymity factor? Do you belong to the group who says if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all group? Feel free to rant, vent or rave about your view on this subject.

To quote Queen Clarice of Genovia (in The Princess Diaries): “Manners matter.”   No one knows that more than the successful businessperson of SL.  When I make a commitment, I do my damnedest to honor it, and both Danielle and I expect the people we hire, and pay good money to, to do the same.  Those that can’t do so can expect to be summarily ejected from the employees group.  (Of course, exceptions are often granted for good cause.  We know things happen, particularly RL things.)

I tend to be known as “the diplomat” of the BLM/Gin Rummy operation, because I’m usually better at talking to people without getting annoyed at them.  An example of this happened at yesterday’s Gin Rummy Job Fair,  when a fairly-new newbie from the Netherlands entered the club.  He wasn’t really a suitable employee for our events, due to the time difference, but I was patient and cheerful with him, explaining a little about how the world works to him, even as Danielle was preparing to eject him for insulting her sub (which I do think was unintentional on his part).  In the end, he was not ejected; he left on his own, but not before I’d given him a landmark to the Shelter and encouraged him to visit there.  I reasoned thusly: By leaving him with a favorable impression of us, I’ve ensured, perhaps, that he’ll come back sometime down the road, when he’s a little more seasoned, and become, if not an employee, perhaps a customer–and perhaps one who’ll tell his friends and draw more people to the club.  “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,” as I explained afterwards.

Mostly, good manners should be a byproduct of remembering that there are real human beings behind the avatars we see on screen…something which, sadly, is all too often forgotten in SL.

“You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you…There are plenty of people who say, ‘We don’t care about etiquette, but we can’t stand the way so-and-so behaves, and we don’t want him around!’ Etiquette doesn’t have the great sanctions that the law has. But the main sanction we do have is in not dealing with these people and isolating them because their behavior is unbearable.”   — Judith Martin (aka “Miss Manners”), 1995


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Not-A-Meme Challenge #17: LIST “GROUPS”, 8, 1

Hey, some of the crowd that I occasionally run around with keeps posting these little challenges for the SL blogging set. I haven’t had the time to answer any of them up until now, but this one is pretty easy, and I happen to have a few spare moments, so lemme pull up the ol’ Group List and see what we got.

Black Diamond Staff

This is because I DJ for Black Diamond, which is Chelle Moore’s club, on occasion. We also have the Don’t Panic! Designs vendors in her mall section (and we really need to shift them, or copy them, to Wilder Mall). Chelle and her hubby (and RL boyfriend) Jazz Asylum are great people, and Chelle is a big professional inspiration to me.

Blaze* Alarm Update Group!

Blaze Columbia is one of the greatest designers to ever walk the Grid. When I’m not on duty at a club, and hence costumed to fit the event, I’m usually wearing Blaze, whether it be the casual golf shirts and slacks, the Ultimate Wool Suit with flexi tie, or the new double-breasted Power Suit (my current favorite).

Bogart Land Management

This is the venture that oversees both The Gin Rummy and Wilder Mall. I am officially listed as CFO of the organization; my office cubicle nameplate (in the private BLM offices atop Tower One of the Wilder Mall complex) says “Chief Financial Officer – Chief Information Officer – Generally In Charge Of A Lot Of Things.” Of course, Danielle’s nameplate says she’s “Head Bitch In Charge.” Not only that, it gives her name as “Danielle ‘The Grid Is Mine’ Ferguson-Wilder.” 🙂 Through this organization, Danielle, Lynx, and I are working towards total Grid domination…

Club Incircle

Another club I have DJ’d for in the past. Spart Cowen, Chiliphallus Rojyo, and somebunny Cheetah have done great things with this place; check ’em out.

Desire Gentlemen’s Club

Danielle and LiLu both dance here, and Danielle also DJs for them. In addition, some of the other dancers there were in Danielle’s wedding. Bane Darrow, the club owner, only hires female DJs, so no hope for me there…oh well.

DJ Aryanna’s Rawkin Groupies & Fans

Aryanna Draken also DJs for Club Incircle and some other clubs. She’s good.

DJ Chelle’s Fans & Friends

Chelle’s fan club group.

DJ CoolJ’s Groupies and Friends

My very own groupies group! 🙂 Most of the folks in it have the “DJ CoolJ Groupie!” title, but a select few are “CoolJ’s Biatch.” If I ever add anyone to the “Girlfriend” role in that group, their title will say, “I’m With The DJ, OK?”

DJ Dani2.0 Fans And Friends

You begin to see a pattern here. 🙂 This one is Danielle’s fan group, in which I am part of the “Dani2.0 Crash Crew.”

Don’t Panic! Design Innovations

Another aspect of the BLM businesses, which Danielle and I use to sell stuff.

Emmy’s Sanctuary

LiLu Flanagan’s charity group. Charter: “A group dedicated to raising funds to help prevent animal abuse and to save pets…one pet at a time.” I did some animal-sponsorship kiosks (a variant of the standard tip jar script) for her.

Fantasyland Estate

The location of the Evans Family Compound. I can definitely recommend doing biz with Sirux Mahoney and the Fantasyland crew; they’re honest, friendly, and they run a tight ship.

Live Music Enthusiasts

Whenever there’s a live music show in SL, you’ll often find it announced via this group. And whenever we have a live act playing at the Gin Rummy, I’ll usually be the one doing the announcing.

New Roma

This group is the master ownership group for the Evans Family Compound property. It’s called this because, when Danielle and I first set it up, the first house we built together was a replica of a Roman villa. I still have that house somewhere in my inventory…


Nicole Cooke, who used to work at Black Diamond, shanghaied me into this group, though she had help from Danielle, Chelle, and others. Charter: “For all the SL PITA’s!” (The name, of course, is an abbreviation for “pain in the ass.”)

Science Fiction Rangers

This is nearly the first group I joined in SL, and I ain’t leaving. Charter: “Science Fiction Rangers is for SL fans who still believe in a sense of wonder, and want to share it. Like SF, Fantasy? Familiar with the works of Miller & Lee, Norton, McCaffrey. Weber? Come Explore With Us.” Commander Shawna Montgomery has been in charge of this group since its inception, and still runs it very well.

SL Live Event Friends

Another group for live music events; this one isn’t as heavily trafficked at the Live Music Enthusiasts one.

The Gin Rummy Employees

Naturally, I not only am a member of this one, I have the coveted “GR Owner” tag. We’re still going strong in our Joie location, doing our events every night except Wednesday, and drawing decent crowds, usually.

The Gin Rummy VIP Club

If you’re a visitor to the GR, don’t be surprised if I hit you with this tag (which is “GR High Roller” for most folks). I announce the events as Group Notices in this group, and usually cross-announce to either the Dani2.0 or CoolJ groups if one of us happens to be DJing.


Another one I don’t plan on getting rid of any time soon. The Shelter was my guiding light during my first weeks in SL, and I’ve never forgotten the good start they gave me. Heck, I met some of my best friends, like Valorna (now LiLu) and Danielle, there.

~~Soulmates Employee~~

Another club I DJ at on occasion. Eye Dangle and Vvu Luan have a great setup here, with a kissing grotto, a wedding chapel, and a luxuriously-sized mall. They’re a very friendly outfit; they’re worth your time to check out.

And, OK, I dropped the group for “Lynx & Danielle’s Wedding” while I was composing this list. That event’s already in the past, and Danielle herself said, “Go ahead and drop that group! I did!” 🙂

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Meme Propagation: Alpha to Zulu

Since three bloggers on my blogroll have now played this game, I feel somewhat obligated to carry on myself. Herewith, the A-Z of the human behind Erbo Evans…

[A is for Age]
37. You got a problem with that? 🙂

[B is for Booze of choice]
I don’t drink a lot anymore, and never really acquired a taste for much alcohol in the first place. But some of the things I can stomach are white zinfandel, champagne, Asti Spumanti, and margaritas.

[C is for Career of choice]
Hacking X for Y. Sometimes I think X = “Second Life” and Y = “Linden Labs,” but I don’t really want to move to the Bay Area. Then again, I’d like to win the Powerball and replace Y with “myself” for the rest of my days…

[D is for Drug of choice]
Caffeine, usually in the form of colas or Penguin Mints. Not only that but, as Timothy Leary once said, “I’m using electrons to activate brain circuits to get you high now. Fortunately, that’s still legal.”

[E is for one Essential item you use every day]
My Nokia 3100 GSM phone. It acts as my alarm clock, my communications lifeline, and a source of entertainment when I’m away from everything else. Other candidates for this position are my custom-build Athlon64-based PC (named “Sangruse” after the nanotech device in Jeff Duntemann’s The Cunning Blood) and my Fossil Abacus WristPDA (A Palm in a watch!).

[F is for Favorite song at the moment]
“Cover My Eyes” by Marillion, from the Holidays in Eden album. It takes me back to when I saw them in concert a year or so ago. “Pa-a-a-a-ain, and heaven…”

[G is for favorite Game]
I will avoid answering “Second Life” here, because I don’t consider it to be so much of a “game” per se. Instead, I will mention Toe Jam & Earl III: Mission to Earth (Xbox). I was a big fan of the original TJ&E for Sega Genesis, and they seem to have preserved a lot of the spirit of that original in the new one. Hey, gonna make a TJ&E4 for Xbox 360? 🙂

[H is for Hometown]
I was born in (near, actually) San Diego, California. Many of my family members still live in that area.

[I is for Instruments you play]
Some keyboard, and I’m also a hand with a sequencer on occasion; I used to do arranging of pop songs as MIDI files as a hobby.

[J is for favorite Juice]

[K is for Kids]
None. Pamela (see below) can’t have ’em. But we have two cats who think they’re our kids.

[L is for Last hug]
From Pamela (see below), this morning.

[M is for Marriage]
October 29, 1999, to Pamela, atop the courthouse clock tower in Santa Barbara, California.

[N is for Nickname]
“Erbo” is my usual handle pretty much everywhere on the Internet. Even some friends of mine–and my brother–call me that.

[O is for number of Overnight hospital stays]
Maybe three or four, the most recent last year when I had to have knee surgery to reattach a couple of tendons I ripped when I slipped on some black ice and dislocated my kneecap.

[P is for Phobias]
Large dogs, talking to strange people on the phone, nuclear annihilation.

[Q is for Quote]
I quote often and frequently. But my recent favorite is from The Cunning Blood (see above), where it was used as an epitaph on a tombstone: “Kick ass. Just don’t miss.”

[R is for biggest Regret]
No regrets. Ever. (Except maybe getting so far into debt at one point…)

[S is for Singing]
Frequently, with the XM radio in my car, if it’s a good song.

[T is for Time you woke up]
On weekdays: Usually by 8:00 AM. On weekends: Hopefully by noon. 🙂

[U is for Underwear]
Boring White Briefs.

[V is for Vegetable you love]
Potatoes…baked and with some cheese and bacon bits. Or scalloped. Or au gratin. Or simply French-fried. And don’t give me that dirty look and muttering about “carbs”…

[W is for Worst habit]
Forgetting to take out my contact lenses before falling asleep. Ow!

[X is for number of X-rays you’ve got]
A number, most recently for my knee (see above). I had two or three series of X-rays for that, and even an MRI at one point.

[Y is for Yummy food you make]
Tacos. I always brown the ground beef for that, mixing in green chiles, reconstituted dried onions, and various spices.

[Z is for Zodiac sign]
Scorpio (November 1). Just missed being a Halloween baby…

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Meme Propagation

Inspired by this post over on Danielle’s blog:

.:-|What is your true element?|-:. -With Anime Pictures and detailed answers-

Your element is Water: Understanding, intelligent, quiet and calm. You know who you are and no one can change that. Usually quiet but only because your listening, don’t let anyone think you haven’t got an opinion! Your not quiet because your shy or sad, your usually quiet because you are thinking. Your answers are well planned and helpful so people generally seek your advice. Your the perfect balance between solitary and outgoing. But sometimes you need a little time to yourself to sort out your emotions and figure things out. You understand the phrase ‘sticks and stone’ and rarely let things get to you. What’s that important for you to have to get so upset over? You know what you want out of life but are simply taking your time and enjoying things. To you your life is fine as it is, you can always change things later if your not happy.
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